Thursday, April 03, 2008

Of being married

Now that i'm married, i noticed that life has changed. Slowly changing. It is no longer about me anymore, but more about us. Not so much on how to find the each other's fault but more on how to avoid the arguement from happening. I learnt to compromise as i'm used to get things done my way, only mine.

We had this conversation early this week. On how shitty it is that when you and your spouse had an arguement, the best you can do is to sleep on the couch. Or maybe, grab the car key, call your best mate and go out for a drink. But in the end of the day you'll still have to come back to your other half, no matter what...no matter how. You just can't go too far. I'm not telling you this for our marriage is on the rock already, for goodness sake we are just being married for 2 week now. We're doing pretty well. But, then again my dear friends...that's reality.

And, the commitment that you are about to make does relates directly to this question "Why do you love me?". The question is quite simple but the answer could cost you your years of relationship if wrongly answered. That reminds me of our Pre-Marriage course we had at a catholic church somewhere early last year. Never love somebody for their good qualities only, take them as who they are. In good or bad times, not in good and BED times only.

Getting married is not just about taking another step ahead. It is about taking a leap. Enough of selfishness, ignorant or your egoism. Everyone can have a perfect and beautiful wedding but marriage is more sacred than that. Wedding is a destination but marriage is a journey.

So, for my dear friends whom are planning for their big day. Have fun even though it is a pain the a$$ i must say. But, nothing comes easily. I still find myself viewing the slideshow of the wedding photos and thinking "everyone's happy, we look good". I just can't recall of the headaches i had while doing the planning. When the day comes, just get a good rest, leave all the worries to your assistants. All you have to do is to make sure you look great and smile.

And for my dear friends whom are not even close to think about getting married. Enjoy your life while you can. When it comes, it just does it wonder. Don't try too hard looking for Mr Nice Guy or McDreamy because they only exists in movies. Sometimes, he/she is right in front of you all this while. Let he/she knows if you like them before it is too late.

Disclaimer: Please don't change your mind after reading this entry. The writer holds no responsibility of any run-away bride or break-ups. It is just a random thoughts for you to ponder.

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